One of my work teams decided to not do a cake, etc at the team meeting on the manager's 40th birthday. I thought the team just forgot, and I was feeling bad that I hadn't done more to put a little something together. It turns out that the team had talked about it and decided to forgo a party because of me. One of the team tried unsuccessfully to find a GF cake, and so rather than getting a regular cake and figuring I could deal with it, they decided to bag it altogether. Argh.